Honesty: When the Truth Hurts — Learn Polish Podcast #539

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Welcome to Learn Polish Podcast, episode number 539.

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Hej. Standardowo najpierw zadam Ci pytanie, jak się masz, co u Ciebie po weekendzie,

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bo się słyszymy pięć raz po weekendzie, więc opowiadaj, jak miną Ci weekend.

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Nieźle, grałem dużo ping-ponga z moim synem. Mhm.

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I just do something else? I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you too.

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I'm trying to relax a bit more, but I'm so happy about you. I'm so happy about

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you and I'm very happy about you.

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I'm very happy, I'm always happy, I'm sorry, I'm so happy. Today we are talking about you. tak?

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Jak to jest? No, bo mówi się, no, często, często ludzie mówią jesteś szczery

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i dziękuję Ci za to, albo właśnie wręcz przeciw, nie kłamiesz i So it's your

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honest and you don't lay.

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Yes, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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no definition of szczery. What is it?

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Your words... It's a word, yes.

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Your words, when you say something, you will do something.

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When you are honest.

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You don't have to think about it. For people who are lying, you always have to think about it.

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One minute you say something, the next one is a little different.

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I don't know. So, honesty is just a truth for you, right?

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Okay. Tell me in the case, can you be very honest?

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Very. We can be not-shyry. Because I've heard, I've heard,

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white lie. Like for example, when your daughter says, if it's nice,

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she says, not very much, because she won't be happy.

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Aha, so in Polish it would be a small clown, or, I remember,

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I think it was a sweet clown, or a small clown, something like that. Yes.

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So, theoretically, it's a lie, but

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it really doesn't have two significant reasons. It's not a very big lie.

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Okay, so lie is a lie, but it's a lie, but it's a lie.

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It's always to say the truth, even if it's an awkward, an awkward, or an awkward.

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It's a lie. It's a lie. It's a lie.

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I think that you all are a little bit crazy, right?

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That everyone is a little bit crazy, but everyone is a little bit crazy,

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but everyone is a little bit crazy. Whether it's a sweet lie or a horrible lie, it's a difference.

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Sweet is not a problem, but when it's bad, it's a bad thing.

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Okay, well, tell me now, Roy, how to compare? Kłamstwo?

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No, no, it's not that, that's true, so, like, actually, of a brutality,

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which is a grenier between the truth and the brutalness, no,

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because someone can be sherry, but still.

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And someone can be sherry and brutal, like, so if you say that he says the truth,

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he says the truth in a brutal way, without empathy, like, this person does not

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think about how she feels, or another person.

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So what is the limit between.

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Empathy and brutality? Can you be honest, or brutal?

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Or not? Yes, yes, it's not good. When a person doesn't feel good, it's not good, right?

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Sometimes it may be a little bit, but when you see who talks,

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it hurts or you are not and be happy later.

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It's brutal. It's brutal.

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It's better to do it. It's easy to say the truth, but not so brutal.

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Tell me, Roy, do you think that true friendship exists.

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Without this honesty? So, do you know, but not to be honest with you.

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So, not to lie, not to lie, not to lie. Do you have a friend?

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No, my friend always says, like he is.

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He says, like he is. So you think that friendship is important, right?

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Yes. Okay, well, tell me how you react when someone, maybe it's someone you're

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close to, or you're close to,

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you're talking about something difficult, so true and true.

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So it's difficult for you to accept it, because it's brutal, right?

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But it's true. And you can't say that it's true, because it's true,

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but it's a little brutal. So how do you react?

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You are not a bad person. No, no, no.

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You are a bad person. You are a bad person. But you are a good person.

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Who can say what you are.

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It is very expensive to have such friends.

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Okay. Tell me, in this case, let's talk about this friendship.

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Tell me, do you have such a situation, that you lost your friend through honestness?

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That is, did you have been so honest with you, that your friendship just finished?

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Do you have such a situation or

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not? Yes. It was a person who helped me in business, and I organized it.

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I look for a client, and we have a provision for every client.

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And I work for a year, and he gave me just a little bit of money, and he's a lot of money.

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So, first, I think that he said all about Honest, tak, szczerze,

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a potem, kiedy patrz, ja,

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moja głowa działa lepiej i myślę, że, a, on mówi to, on mówi to,

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a teraz wiem, on kłamiesz dużo.

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No, intuicja się nie myli. No dobrze.

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Powiedz mi w takim razie, czyli nasza konkluzja jest następująca,

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że szczerość to nie zawsze klucz do sukcesu, because it can also be the key

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to finish the relationship.

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So, I think that you sleep better, when you're in the middle of the relationship.

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In Polish it is said that which eyes don't see, that heart is not a bad.

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So, if eyes don't see, then you think that heart is not a bad.

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So, in Polish it is said that which eyes don't see, that heart is not a bad.

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But it's better to know what to do with it than to live in a lie.

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OK. OK. Let's say we're gonna have to say a level of friendship,

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because we're talking about friendship.

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Now we're talking about friendship, because it's also true.

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In the world in the middle of the times, but we're talking about friendship.

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So, what can we have to say, and what can we have to say?

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Is there a topic, which can we have to say? Or better not say,

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or better not say it to say, and what can we have to say? What is it?

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What is it? What is it? What is it? So, sweet lies and such big lies.

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What is it, in the relationship between partners? It's a small lie,

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which is a little lie, which is, I don't know.

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I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, what is it?

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What is it? That's a big lie, that's not a lie.

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I'll give you a example of the lie for you. Lepiej,

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like, even if you want to be a little bit,

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but when you want to be a little bit, you don't feel exactly the same when you

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want to be a little bit. Mhm.

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No dobra, ale te małe kłamstwa i duże kłamstwa.

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Podaj przykłady małych kłamstw dla ciebie w relacji. To znaczy,

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co jest taką rzeczą, którą można powiedzieć, chociaż to nieprawda,

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a co jest rzeczą, której już nie można?

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Czyli jakieś takie granice między kłamstwami. Co jest akceptowalne,

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a co jest nieakceptowalne?

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Jakie kłamstwo musimy zaakceptować, a jakie nie? on what subject you can say?

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How much can it be, right? Yes.

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I don't know, Mr. Like a small. Exactly, a small. So what?

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I don't know. It's like...

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Where you were, for example. No, no, no, no. What is it? Where you were?

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What do you say? Where you were?

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Maybe you meet a friend and your girl doesn't like this person,

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who is better saying, no, I

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don't know, maybe you're a little friend or a little friend, I don't know.

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So, okay. What kind of clowns? What in this case?

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For example, when a person says I was with a friend and he wasn't.

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He was with a boy, or he was on I don't know, look at Tinder or something.

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It's a good thing. It's a good thing.

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Good thing. No, no, no, dobra, no, dobra, czyli są małe kłamstwa i duże kłamstwa,

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no właśnie, a teraz takie pytanie,

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czy zaufanie i szczerość to to samo?

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I love you, I love you. We are all the same. We are all the same. We are all the same.

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And we are all the same. We are all the same. We are all the same. For example.

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Someone may give information about your account.

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And we will never get your money. But nobody knows, if everything is so close to you.

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It's a little bit, but close to you. Close to you, but close to you. I understand.

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I agree with that. Okay.

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Okay. Tell me, how do you see yourself? If you are alone in yourself?

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No, bo możemy być szczerzy wobec innych ludzi, tak?

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O tym rozmawiamy, nie wiem, w przyjaźni, w partnerstwie też,

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tak? Z partnerem naszym.

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W rodzinie też przecież jest szczerość i zaufanie. Nieważne,

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czy to siostra, czy brat, czy rodzice.

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To też jest szczerość i zaufanie.

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A teraz przejdźmy do takiego tematu. Do szczerości wobec samego siebie.

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Czyli jak patrzysz w lustro i widzisz siebie, What does it mean to be honest

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and same with yourself? I don't know if you understand yourself.

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How can you be honest and yourself? Because you can't be honest and yourself.

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I mean, you can't be honest with yourself.

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But how do you understand yourself? And if you are honest with yourself?

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Yes, okay. How do you understand? Being honest against yourself.

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How do you look at yourself? It's like when something is not good, you know it's not good.

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And you can say, why it's not good, because it's my window.

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It's not good, it's not good, it's not good. Yeah, it's not good.

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It's not good. So, I don't know.

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So, it's the skill of self-criticism. Right?

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And tell me, do you think you can self-critic yourself?

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You yourself are so critical. Not only, but I'm great.

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But I'm not bad for me.

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I'm positive, but I'm not the best. That's realistic.

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Yes, you are realist. It is important to see your minuses.

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We know that we have pluses.

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But unfortunately everyone has minuses. Even I.

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No? What? What is it? I also have minuses.

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Everyone has minuses. But no, even I am not good.

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Even I am not good. I am not good.

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So, I really appreciate it, that I was very happy to hear your opinion on this topic.

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Okay, how would you do that at the end?

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The person who is going to be a sincere person, that means, who is going to

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say a truth from different reasons, it may be in a relationship,

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in a relationship, in a family, that she wants to be a sincere,

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but she will be a sincere person.

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She just wants to be a sincere person, because she wants to be a sincere person,

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other person, that the person doesn't believe that what kind of thing.

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What would you like to be like a person who is afraid to say the truth?

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Sometimes I don't say what is the truth, because you say it's a good thing,

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because it's a family, it's a cousin.

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But for me, my life always says what is the truth.

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No, no, no.

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Osoba wymienić and wie i jesteś szczęśliwy, bo było szczeroście and normalne

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ludzie mówili, ale wszystko z porządku.

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No tak. Nawet jeśli ktoś nie uwierzy, to też. To już jest problem tej osoby, co nie wierzy.

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Najważniejsze, że my jesteśmy szczerzy with each other and with each other.

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No dobra, Roy. Dziękuję Ci bardzo za ten krótki, psychologiczny podcast.

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Naprawdę. Psychologia to mój ulubiony temat. A powiedz mi, bo ja to nie wiem gdzie.

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Gdzie jest sekcja komentarzy? Czy ktoś to skomentował? Nie, chyba.

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Tak. Ludzie może na komentarz na Spotify, YouTube, Rumble, YouTube i czytamy

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i Facebook też będzie czytamy co pisz.

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Dobrze. Ja w takim razie chętnie zobaczyć te komentarze. Będę sprawdzać,

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będę sprawdzać Dobra, to co, dziękuję bardzo I do usłyszenia.