#533 When Friendships Fade: How to Know It's Time

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Cześć. Na ten odcinek to ja czekałam długo, bo będzie to ciekawy temat,

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so I'll just go ahead, because I'm very curious, what I'm going to say.

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Well, yes, I'm going to say, what I'm going to say.

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Okay, today I'm going to talk about a little psychically, a little bit like

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life, always life. My tematy are only life.

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Okay, so, the question, which you can see, and you can see it all.

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The truth is that the truth is all about friendship. The truth is that the truth is about friendship.

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When we were children, children, and now when we are children,

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who work, have their own life, they have their own problems.

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How is it with friendship?

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Roy, tell me my first question on a little bit. Is there any limit?

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Termin ważności, tak zwany, czy faktycznie w życiu każdej osoby przychodzi taki limit, że ta relacja,

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no nie wiem, z kolegą, z koleżanką, z przyjacielem, z przyjaciółką,

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mówię, bo w Polsce jesteśmy trochę bardziej selektywni, mamy znajomych,

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mamy kolegów, mamy przyjacioł, trzy stopnie, tak? Not everyone can be your friend.

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How is it? Are you having a limit to your relationship? That you have a limit to your life?

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That you don't have to talk to your person.

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Because you are so bad. How is it? I think that you have a whole life.

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Sometimes you are very close to a few people. And then one will do something.

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Do you see. So, there is limit.

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Maybe he has a lot of friends, but very close to him is not a lot.

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Okay, so now how to recognize this moment?

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Say, you have a friend, you are friends for many years. No, I don't know, five, maybe ten years.

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How to recognize this moment, that it's not the same, that you are friends,

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maybe you talk about it, but you are already talking about it,

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but it is not the same thing you were.

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How do you think about the moment when you are in a situation?

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For example, maybe when you're young and you're 20 and you go to the club and

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you're everything in the same way,

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and then you have a moment, that's not for me, I don't have a chance to drink alcohol,

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maybe something else, but it was only for you to play, and when you're not going

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to the club, you're not very close to the club, It's all about this moment.

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It may be this situation, right?

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Aha. So, that you're not the same thing. You're not the same thing. Okay.

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So, tell me. When we talk about the same thing, tell me.

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When you know, that you don't have the same topics to talk, to talk with someone,

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it's the moment when you think, that it's the end.

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I'm saying, tej relacji, przyjaźni, koleżeństwa, znajomości?

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Czy po prostu, no nie wiem, ty i ta osoba dojrzeliście już, tak?

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I po prostu jesteście dorośli. Jak to jest?

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Czy jak już nie widzisz tematu do rozmowy, to uważasz, że to koniec?

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Czy po prostu zmiana jakiegoś myślenia?

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Zależy, bo na przykład, kiedy rozmawiamy cały czas and your personal development

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and education is that you were first here and then you are there.

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And when you talk, you can talk about the wrong people or about television.

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And for me it is not important, right? And it's not an intelligent conversation, right?

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Because sometimes it can be a person for a month and everything is in order.

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Sometimes it can be a weekend for a person. And sometimes it can be 3 minutes.

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And you don't have to say goodbye, but it's more and more. Just a little bit of coffee.

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So, the moment when there is more and less conversation, is it always so that

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it's not, but it's less, or is it actually less, less, less,

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less, less and at the end, it's the end.

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Czasami, ale na przykład, ja wiem, to jest osoba, ale zawsze mówi 100 lat,

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tak pisze, ładnie zdjęcie, ale nigdy telefon i rozmawia za pół godziny, godziny, tak?

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To teraz a propos właśnie tej rozmowy, to powiedz mi, czy cisza między przyjaciółmi,

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to znaczy powiedzmy, że faktycznie masz takiego przyjaciela,

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ale nie wiem, nie piszecie ze sobą, mówię, wiadomości, you don't talk through phone,

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you don't contact you practically,

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so if you're talking about the end, or if you're talking about the silence between

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you, is it bad or is it okay?

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No, it's okay. For example, I have a friend from school, when I was in school,

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we were very close, I was the best man, and I was the best man.

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And we were always talking about the joke.

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We were on a lot of vacations, but I live here for 18 years.

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So he was so many times here. But we were not talking very rarely.

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But when we met, we returned to our lives.

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The joke is very good. So, maybe sometimes we don't talk for 3 months.

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But when I come back to Ireland and we meet, everything is fine.

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So, I have this situation. Sometimes it may be a situation where you are very

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close and you don't see a year back.

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And then I think, that's why we were friends, because you are not close.

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Everything is different, so everything grows, right?

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It changes, right? Everything changes. Okay, but is it normal or not?

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In the sense that we lost the same language with the age, so that we lost the same language.

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I'm saying, what we've connected to us, let's say the same hobbies,

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the same topics, that this with the age of the age just exists.

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Is it a natural process, is, or does this mean that these people never were for you?

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Never were for you, because I have a trust, who thinks everything is different

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from me, but we have a regret, and we have a good time together. But.

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I know how the world works and what is not good.

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He thinks he can do it on the front of the chapel.

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I'm a joke. For me, he can write a joke, like, for example, a man on the moon.

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He thinks that's true, but I don't. And we're doing a joke together,

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and there's no problem, right?

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It's like, because sometimes we think, oh, we should think exactly the same thing.

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So I have a situation where I think 100%. Mm-hmm.

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To be honest, I'll talk about these relationships. I'll just say, to be honest,

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if such a relationship is possible, when one person stands in the place,

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does not move, does not move, and the other one is a little bit of a year and

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in a certain moment they are in a distance in a little bit more than that the

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difference between them is pretty visible as here on the commerce that the person in a way,

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in a way a the one is the way.

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Here we call it as we call it,

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Zosia. Ta Zosia tutaj, ona jest, nie wiem, nauczyła się bardzo dużo rzeczy,

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nie wiem, zmieniła swoje życie, w ogóle wszystko.

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A ten tutaj na dole nazwijmy go Krzysio, tak? I ten Krzysio,

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jaki był, tak jest i tak będzie już zawsze.

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Czy ta Zosia i ten Krzysio mogą rozmawiać?

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Czy raczej ta Zosia musiałaby wrócić nisko, żeby zrozumieć Krzysia?

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Czy Krzysio powinien iść do góry i zrozumieć Zosię?

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So, this relationship is possible in this level.

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I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Yes, it's possible, but you don't have to do it,

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because sometimes it's like when a person is good, you can talk about a normal

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topic, but it doesn't have to be a very intelligent conversation,

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because it will be for another person, and you can't say that person.

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So, it can be. No, dobra. No, Zosia i Krzysio, tak?

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Że ta Zosia mówi do Krzysia, ej, Krzysio, w sumie to już jesteśmy daleko od siebie, a ja Cię lubię.

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I Krzysio mówi, ja też Cię lubię. Więc może po prostu uratujmy te relacje.

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No nie wiem, chodźmy na piwo, pogadajmy trochę częściej.

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Czy takie relacje ludzi, którzy już ewidentnie są daleko, jest sens ratować,

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czy już lepiej zostawić to?

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It depends, because there is always one thing that can be, or just be a revision,

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because sometimes you have a good revision.

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Sometimes people who are very close to you are a bit of a hard time when you

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go, but they can talk very well.

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So everything depends on people.

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But I had a situation where I know people for a few years and do business together,

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and he is not going to do what you want to do, and money,

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and for me it's like, do you see, and that's the door.

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When people do bad for me, it's like, I'm not going to say, ah, everything is okay.

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When people do bad things, like for example, sometimes the people may sleep

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with your boy, like, for me, it's the end.

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Yes, people do this, or maybe only a bugger, or, yes?

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And for me, it's like, no, bye-bye, because it's not a problem. And also, business.

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When you listen to you, you say badly about you. It's like...

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So, when you have a character, it's like, you're close to people who are not a good character.

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For me, no. It's like, I have a nose, for you, and a new person is better. Please, thank you.

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No, I think that if we are older, then it's easier to just leave these people.

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I think that young people are around different people, good and bad.

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And then when a person is, let's say it, although we are not a star,

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absolutely, let's say it, let's say it, let's say it, from the point of view of psychology,

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to just be more selective.

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At this stage, you better are able to find out, if someone is,

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let's say, god of faith, or not.

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And you very quickly see, What is the person negative or positive?

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Ok, now a very difficult question.

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What is the hardest? Is it to end relationship or continue to go on?

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Or, you know, you should not have to go on, but you should start to go on,

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to be able to work on. What is the hardest?

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I think that I will continue to go on the way. I think that I will continue.

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Because when I'm done with the end, I may love the family from this person,

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or a few people, because when the relationship is finished, everything is normal to see.

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You will not see everything from this group. And when I have to work on this

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relationship, I always think that I don't feel good.

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It's not good for you. You have to know how to,

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I must be happy for other people.

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It's important to be happy for you.

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You must be happy for yourself. It's important to be happy for you.

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You must, for example, go to the cinema and do something together.

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But when I don't feel good with you, I'll see you. Do you see it.

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It is work, right? When a relationship is work, it is not good.

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No, it is not good, so. Okay.

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So, in general, if we change it, or people change it? It's a pretty good question.

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In the sense, if we change ourselves and people don't like us,

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or if we stop them to answer them? How is it?

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I don't understand everything. It's like if they change... No, no, no.

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It's like that you change yourself and you see yourself, that you're doing progress.

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And then you know, that you changed yourself, and people are the same as they were.

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But it can be the same, that you are the same as you were.

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And that person says, that she doesn't want you in your life,

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because she made progress, and that you are the same as you were.

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Is that you are the two sides? Is that we are the ones who are using people from our lives?

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Is that someone can use us in the same way? Do you understand?

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Like, how can a person change? Yes, yes.

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Like you too. Your colleague says, Roy, I don't like you.

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For example. Because we are talking about ourselves. We are doing progress.

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We are choosing ourselves. But how would it be, if someone told us,

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Hey, Roy, I don't like you. I don't like you anymore. I can't do it.

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Is it possible to do it in the other way? What would you do then?

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Would you fight for a relationship? Call it Krzysio again.

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What do you say? What do you say? Or would you say okay, Krzysio, bye bye.

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Maybe I talk about it, but always you have to change a person.

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I can't change what you do, what you think.

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You have to change a person. to change.

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Sometimes you may want to help, change, and say, no, it's bad, you have to do that, but,

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For example, when a person has a lot of people, I say, hey, I can't.

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I can't. My words are very small, but normal people have to change something.

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That's a very interesting question. For example, how do you think,

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when you have a good friend, and that friend obviously does something negative

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for him, who is a friend of course, a lot of wine, a little alcohol,

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and now, you as a friend.

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Would you have to say, you should say to this person, that is not a thing,

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that is a thing, that is a thing, and that person even is a thing,

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and he says, I already said to you, I don't know, I don't want to say that,

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because you are a friend,

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so that they are a good friend, and they are not good, and not doing anything, what you do,

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but from the other hand, everyone has a choice, and if the person chooses to,

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why do I want to say, we are friends with our lives, and how do you see it?

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Or you say, what you want to do, even if it is good for you,

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or if you are good for them, or you want to do what you want to do,

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or you want to do what you want to do, for example,

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Krzysio, She's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink, she's a drink,

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she's a drink, she's a You can choose to leave and be friends with them.

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But everyone does what they want.

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It depends on the situation. But it's better to not say no, no, no.

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You don't have to be a teacher. You say, Dear, you are my best friend.

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But it's not good. But when it's not good, it's good. look, idźmy,

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ale ja jestem, jeśli chceš rozmawiać, tak? So...

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Not to see you, but when you change something, it may be a few years later.

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And he says, when you change, I'm for you.

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I'm waiting for you. But when you don't feel good when you're together,

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he says, when you change, we'll meet you.

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And if the person never changes, then what? It will be a new person in my life,

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and I will have my own life. And it will be a new person.

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But it will be a difficult question.

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Well, Roy, thank you very much. I love these psychologics topics,

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because the topic of relationship is quite difficult.

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One person would do this, the other would do this. It depends on the situation. very often.

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And so, if someone has a question of a question, a psychological topic,

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I'm going to see you. I'm going to inspire you, because I'm just going to finish the topic.

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So if someone wants to leave a comment, I'm going to leave you in the comments. I'm going to try to.

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And I'm going to try to do this with Roy. I'm going to try to do this in a way.

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I'm going to try to do this in a way. Well, thank you very much.

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I'm going to thank you for the marketing. I'm going to try to do this.

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No i so, do usłyszenia w kolejnym odcinku.

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Pa, pa. thank you so much so you can get lessons

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from mania you can get polish or spanish

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the links are in the show notes but on the audio and the video find everything

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about me scan the QR code go to roycall.com if you're looking for virtual assistance

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Until next week, thank you very much. You double it's in you.