#521 Dating in Polish: First-Date Awkwardness, Red Flags and Ghosting

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Welcome to Learn Polish Podcast, episode number 521, 521.

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You can find all our episodes on learnpolishpodcast.com. You'll find everything

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about me, scan the QR code or go to rycon.com.

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in that, I'll have the link in the show notes.

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And if you want the lessons from Anja, I'll also have all our details in the show notes. Cześć Anja.

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Cześć. Roy, zacznę od pytania. How do you feel?

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Not 100%, but a little better. In the morning I was very bad, but now it's better.

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In addition to the last podcast you recommended me to go to the sauna,

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I have to ask you, maybe you were yourself in the plan to go to the sauna? That's good.

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In the last three days I was. I was. No, I can't have a watch,

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or not? No, definitely, yes. Good, I'm very excited.

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Today we have a very interesting topic.

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We have a very emotional topic. We have a very interesting topic.

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Roy, tell me. It's a very interesting topic.

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Tell me, Roy.

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Rantka, słowo rantka. Dish. Yes, of course. And what?

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And what's this rantka? Tell me, how would you look, or how should you look, the first round?

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What kind of characteristics of the round?

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What kind of characteristics of the round? When I have a round, I don't know.

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I've been a round. I think it was a little bit.

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But it was. Okay. So, what kind of a rant? What do you do?

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Where you go. It depends on the person, because sometimes the person can help

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us, and sometimes the person can talk, and the other person has to be in the

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restaurant, has to be in the kitchen.

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It's good too, but when there is a good character, a good conversation, it's a big difference.

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In Polish, there is a nice expression that the conversation doesn't change.

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So, the conversation doesn't change.

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Yeah, nothing to talk about, is it? Tak, wzajemnego. Rozmowa się nie klei.

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No i tak się zdarza niestety.

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No tak, czyli typowa randka.

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Dobra, a powiedz mi w takim razie, co może dziwić Cię w randkach?

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Dziwić to zeskakiwać. Coś takiego wow.

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Jakieś takie nieoczekiwane sytuacje.

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Może jakieś dziwne, jakieś momenty dziwne w randkach.

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Na przykład dziwne. It's a weird place, I don't know, to go to a random place.

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It's a weird place. It's a weird place for a long time. It's a nietypowe place.

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Nothing is awkward.

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Nothing is worried about it. So, it's a typo, a typo scheme.

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For example, when you're in a restaurant, it's not normal.

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It's a good meal. Because when you have a good meal, you feel better.

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Yes, food is the basis to eat, because if a person is hungry, he doesn't think.

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Yes, food is the most important thing. Okay, tell me what is your opinion about

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the fact that your family immediately met a person?

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That means, let's say, you were on a rant, right?

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The conversation is clear, the conversation is clear.

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And when is the good moment to present a partner or a partner in the family? Yeah.

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It depends on the person, because when you feel very comfortable, it's fast.

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Fast, okay. When you... No? Then.

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Then, then, okay. So we wait, wait. It's a situation of no thought at the first

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level of the rant, so it's a situation of unacceptable.

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Roy, what do you do not accept at the rant?

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When a person is not my own, is negative.

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That's my energy, right? Yes, just she says wrong about other people. Oh, other people, yes.

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And when I see what is not my own to the corner, then I know your card.

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When you say bad, thank you, or just like, as patchy, you think you're the king, or the king.

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Or the king. Yes, the king.

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Okay, Roy, you talk all the time about this restaurant.

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What is the best place for you? I think it's a restaurant for you.

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It's an ideal place for you.

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In Łodzi is Piotrkowska. In Łodzi is Piotrkowska, okay.

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And if we are not in Łodzi, then where? Because there is no Piotrkowska.

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It's only in Łodzi. And if we are not in Łodzi, then what? It depends.

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Sometimes we can have Michelin's restauration. So, everything depends on the taste.

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Sometimes it may be a vegetarian, and I don't eat it, but I won't buy meat,

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when I know that someone doesn't eat meat.

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So, you need to understand it, right? Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

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Okay, Roy, did you go to the lunch with a meal without a meal?

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Well, when there is a vegetarian restaurant, it's normal.

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You have a big deal, you have a pot, you have a pot, you have a pot,

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you have a pot, you have a pot, you have a pot, you have a pot.

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Okay, so you have to accept that restaurant.

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Okay, now a important thing. What is important?

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Emocional connection, or interaction, which is an emotional connection,

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which the person produces in the way and in the way, or interaction, which is a common hobby.

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What is important to you? Emocions or a common hobby? I don't know, I just understand.

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It's like that they're emotional person?

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No, here it is called a connection, so it is a connection, so it is a connection.

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So, emotional connection or hobby.

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Hobby is not the same as emotion, because I can go to a bathroom,

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another person can go to a bathroom, but our conversation is not a bathroom,

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there is no difference, you understand?

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And these are the emotions. No to teraz, ważne jest to coś, emocje,

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czy jednak hobby na przykład, zainteresowania?

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Sucha osoba lubi to, co ty, dosłownie wszystko.

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Sometimes it's good, because when you love learning, you can go to the bathroom,

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you can go to the bathroom, you can go to the bathroom, you can go to the bathroom,

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and it's okay when you don't have a person who likes it.

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For example, I love reading books, because sometimes people don't read anything,

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and watch the television all the time.

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So you accepted this difference, right? That someone doesn't like reading books,

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but does television, right?

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When someone... But it may be a problem, because when... Yes, but it may be a problem.

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Because sometimes someone wants to watch the television and watch the television.

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And when there is a problem... I like film and cinema, but when I don't like

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show, when I'm interested,

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I read the book better, because sometimes any partner doesn't like it.

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It must be beside you. New partner.

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Yes. So here is compromise. You have to find a silver lining.

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The compromise is a good solution for one side and for the other side.

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Okay, so we are talking about this restaurant.

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Tell me Roy, how to dress on a lanty? How to dress on a lanty?

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How to make a good impression?

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Yes, it's elegant, but not a lot. Ah, not a lot. It's elegant, but not a lot.

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Profesional, good. Functional, okay.

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It depends on where. For example, when you go to the circle, normal.

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When you go to the cinema. Then you go to the luci. Yes, but not.

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Yes, but without a doubt.

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Okay, tell me, in this restaurant, now a question that can cause conflict.

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Who's paying in this restaurant?

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Who's paying? It's a conflict question. For me, it's like a first rank.

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I want them. Aha. Ty chciałeś. Ok.

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A co sądzisz o tej metodzie dzielenia rachunku? Połowę jedna osoba,

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połowę druga osoba? Nie wiem.

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Zależy wszystko osoba, zależy budżet, bo może kobiety ma więcej pieniędzy.

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Wszystko zależy, bo wszystko musi być szczęśliwe. Aha, wszyscy muszą być szczęśliwi,

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czyli metoda jest taka, żeby każdy był zadowolony.

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No tak, mówię, pytanie konfliktowe, ponieważ budza wiele kontrowersji, tak?

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Dobra, mamy to, mamy strój, mamy rozstrzygnięty problem zapłaty,

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jesteśmy w restauracji, a powiedz mi, co sądzisz o takiej alternatywie?

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Zamiast restauracji, spacer, bez jedzenia.

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What is better? Spacer or restauration? It's just an alternative option.

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Different things to do. So, yeah, in the park, in Spacer, it's very good,

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because I love natural and so many people.

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It's not... It's a bit rude, right? It's not... It's a good time to talk.

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Of course. It's a condition that you talk about, you know, clay,

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right? Because if you don't put it, there's no conversation.

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Sometimes in restaurants, people can't feel like... Or maybe a lot of people... The cinema is...

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Because I can't talk a lot, but then I can also go to the beach.

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So the beach is the best moment for the conversation.

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And pool is also good, because sometimes we play, I don't know,

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billards, but when we play, it's a joke,

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and then we'll see what is the character. Mhm, tak, jaki charakter.

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Dobra, skoro mówimy o rozmowie i od gdzie rozmawiać, no to teraz,

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jaki jest najgorszy możliwy tekst na rozpoczęcie rozmowy?

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Jakiś tekst, który od razu może dać takie uczucie, że nie, nie. Co w ogóle ta osoba mówi?

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Najgorszy tekst. Na przykład, kiedy rozmawia i myślę, że może być, może nie.

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And then it's like, kiedy pytasz coś or rozmawiasz, pisz coś ładnie or od.

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And then pisz tak or nie, and then nic, and nie pytanie później.

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It's like, jak chcesz cały czas informacje, and then it's like, eh.

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Okay, czyli gdy chcesz podtrzymywać konwersację, a ta osoba nie ma takiej chęci,

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tak, nie chce, ewidentnie nie chce i odpowiada jednym słowem.

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Okay, a in such a conversation, in life, when you talk with someone,

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in park, how do you accept the text, if someone uses a word of words?

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I don't know if I can't hear anything, but I don't understand. I don't understand.

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Do you accept, when a person uses a nice language? That's it? Of course.

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You say vulgarly, a word censural, a rude. Do you accept?

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It depends, sometimes we speak a few people, but when it's all the time,

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it's like... No właśnie, ja mówię o sytuacji, kiedy ta osoba cały czas używa.

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To jest jej język po prostu. To wtedy nie.

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Bo na przykład na słownie czasami ja słucham coś, coś, coś, to dla mnie nie.

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No nie, to faktycznie nie.

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Najgorszy tekst to taki, który jest niekulturalny naprawdę, tak?

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I jakiś taki, który powoduje takie negatywne emocje. Although it also depends

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on the person, because each person has a different tolerance,

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I think, on the emotions.

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Okay, now a question.

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Was there a moment when you wanted to escape from the lunch?

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That means you were at lunch and you were thinking about going home,

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because it was tragic, right?

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Yes. Okay, so there was something like that.

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So the conversation didn't get stuck. It's like, szybko wiem,

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to nie jest dla mnie, to nie jest osoba dla mnie, tak?

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Właśnie, to jest świetny moment, żeby zadać Ci kolejne pytanie,

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skąd wiesz, że to nie jest to?

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To znaczy, rozmawiasz z osobą i już widzisz, nie.

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What will make you know, that you don't know? What is the moment in which you

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don't know, that there is no second day, that there will be nothing?

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Where do you know what's going on?

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Sometimes it is not natural when we talk.

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You have to think...

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I talk about it over the years. and something, but they don't say anything, right?

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And it's all the time, and then then later it's like, oh, so I don't ask,

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I don't interest you about me or about another topic, right?

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And sometimes it's like, it's a hard time to talk, right? So,

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it's a hard time to talk, right?

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But it can be from other people, right?

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It's not just a rank, it can be from a group and we go drinking and then one person can't talk.

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So... So, talking is the moment, when you decide, that you know,

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that you know, that you know, that you know.

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That's great, because talking is important. The words are important.

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The communication is all about.

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Alright, last question. It's a pretty negative thing.

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Ghosting. Roy, how to deal with ghosting?

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What to do, when someone is ghosting?

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What? Do you believe in yourself personally and do you think about it? Do you feel it?

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No, no. When a person does ghosting, it's good for me.

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It's good, because it's not for me. It's not for me. Mm-hmm, tak.

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So, no, niestety, I think that in today's world, in today's times,

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this situation with ghosting, is something, what is a big problem or a small problem?

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It was a lot, but now the situation is not before.

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Before we go to the discotheque, go to the pub, go to the kawian,

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just talk, go to the club, go to the Toastmasters, and we go to the podcast,

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we go to the podcast, we go to the Ranka.

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And now we go to the Bumble or Tinder or something, and we go to the Pish,

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the Pish, the Pish, the Pish.

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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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no, no, no My hand, right?

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Ah, my hand? Well, maybe you too, yes.

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Everything is for my hand. Yes, everything is for my hand.

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Everything is for my hand. No, no, no, no. You listen to the listeners,

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yes? Yes, but I would like to encourage you here to interact.

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Well, thanks a lot for your hand. We'll hear you soon. Okay.

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